Maximize Your Potential by Working With an MFT
What is an MFT and how can they help you?
An MFT is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. They are specially qualified to help you work through challenges in your life. And more specifically, they can help you find more fulfillment in your relationship(s). Or maybe you have a complicated family dynamic. MFTs have specific training to help you navigate these issues and get to a better place.
These dedicated mental health practitioners offer psychotherapy to individuals, couples, and families. MFTs receive extensive training in human behavior. They study how problems come up in day-to-day life and how to resolve them.¹
The work these therapists do is so vital, that the US Department of Health and Human Services recognizes MFTs as one of the five core mental health professions. That’s because relationships truly matter, and have such a profound impact on our happiness and sense of wellbeing.
Studies have shown that working with an MFT can help with everything from depression, to anxiety and stress-related disorders, sexual issues, or struggles with chronic medical issues like pelvic pain. The methods these therapists use are often more effective and less expensive than other types of treatments and interventions.²
Who can be an MFT?
All MFTs have at least a master’s or doctorate degree. They also have completed several years of clinical training. You are trusting this person with your care, so it’s absolutely ok to check into their education and experience. Many MFTs will have these details listed on their website for exactly this reason. You’ll be covering a lot of very sensitive and private information in your sessions. So it’s important to know that your MFT has the proper training to give you the support you deserve.
The MFT you work with may be male, female, or non-binary. They can be single, partnered, or married. They may or may not have kids. They may be hetero or from the LGBTQ community. Their background doesn’t have to look like yours for them to be a good fit for you. That’s because an MFT isn’t the go-to expert simply because of their own life experience -- they’re the ones you want to see for their highly educated and unbiased training.
What makes a good MFT is someone who is able to see patterns and dynamics relating to families or individual situations. And then point out those patterns to clients. I know you’re thinking, I’m living in this situation… can’t I see those patterns myself?
Some people can. But for many of us, when we’re involved in a situation, things can get very emotionally charged. And that’s understandable, especially if you’re struggling. But this makes it hard for you to see those patterns yourself. So it can be extremely eye-opening for someone to point these patterns and dynamics out to us. Like wow, it was right there the whole time and I didn’t see it.
How does an MFT identify patterns?
They take into account your entire history. Most of the time, that goes all the way back to your childhood and everything that led you up to this point. What does your childhood have to do with the challenges in your relationship today? Oftentimes more than you think. That’s why learning about your background is so helpful to your therapist.
But it’s not the only focus. This is great because sometimes we’re just not ready to talk about our childhood or our past. Some of those memories are painful, even traumatic. Being ready to open up and share requires a lot of trust. And that takes time to build.
Don’t worry, your MFT is happy to meet you where you are. Their goal isn’t to write your whole biography and learn every last detail of your life. They’re there to help you get on a more fulfilling path. And together help you reach your full potential.
What you should know before choosing an MFT
Some MFTs work with insurance and some do not. It’s entirely appropriate to ask specific questions before starting treatment.
Do you accept insurance? Are you in network with my insurance provider?
If you don’t work with insurance, do you provide superbills that I can submit to my provider for reimbursement?
What options do you have for someone with a limited budget?
How do I negotiate with my insurance provider so they cover this service?
Your MFT is committed to your success. So they’ll be more than happy to have a frank discussion of your options and formulate a treatment plan that works for you. And this includes an honest discussion about insurance and finances.
Some factors to consider
Some MFTs have a variety of training to fit very specific needs. For example, in addition to my MFT background, I also have specialization in sex therapy, pelvic pain treatment and certification as a trauma therapist. Some clients need that particular combination of skill sets to find the relief they’re looking for.
For example, many women and vulva owners suffer from low libido or chronic pelvic pain. There may be underlying physical conditions that are causing these issues. But they can also have a profound effect on your relationships and overall well-being. Even if you’re addressing the physical side of the issue with your obgyn or physical therapist, there’s a mental and emotional component that is just as important to tackle.
Even if you’re not currently in a romantic relationship, it’s important to reach out for help. Unresolved issues with pelvic pain cause stress, anxiety, shame, and other mental health issues. This can affect your confidence at work, how assertive you are in all kinds of situations, what types of exercise you do, your body image, and so much more.
You deserve to be happy. So no matter what type of issue you’re struggling with, a qualified MFT can guide your way forward. I’d love to see you reach your full potential and live your best life. To learn more about how working with an MFT can make your life more fulfilled, check out my website: https://www.cassardcenter.com/ I look forward to helping you get on the path to a better you.
